Today's Tmrrw: Year One of MANY
What are the likely outcomes that come
to mind when you put two Black women from Harlem together, to put on a dope
radio show and movement? Bet it wasn’t Connie, Rosi and Today’s Tmrrw; well
that’s what you get. Two women dedicated to make a movement work and a radio show dope! The two of
them together bring you a weekly
radio show that explores the in’s and out’s of everyday life. It’s not just a
two hour show that recaps pure celebrity gossip or what’s trending. But as a
segment of the show puts it R.N.S., Real Nigga Shit. That’s what they are going
to give you Real Nigga Shit. The of stuff everyday life, from dating bougie chicks
to the best ways of fellatio, and everything in between. Its what's needed, in a world full of clouds as you navigate the streets you need a light that distinguishes the real from the fake.
Coco, born Constance T. Rahming, is a
Harlem native with a degree in Business Administration (she's not dumb y'all).
She is about her business in all aspect of the word and over the years has
developed a knack for networking and making things happen. She has always been
one with an eye for new things all of which she put into her many endeavors. In
her personal life, Coco likes having fun, learning new things, and finding new
ways to master this task we call “Life”. Overall, Coco is just a young woman
who gets a charge out of helping those around her, using her networking connections, and believes that there are enough opportunities out there
for everyone to fine the one right for them. 
Rosi was born in 80’s Harlem, New York,
as a child Rosi always took to anything that allowed her to express herself,
from singing in local choirs and competitions, to dancing on her High School
dance team. Rosi attended college with the aspirations of becoming an
architect, but it wasn't until she explored the world of communications that she
discovered where her true passions lied. In addition to co-hosting Today’s
Tmrrw, with Coco, Rosi blogs from sites such as HouseofAuro.com and SerendipityNY.com.
She also has a jewelry line, Glorified Opinions set to launch in May 2013, there’s clearly no stopping this Girl.
Going forward with the growth of the show, Coco and Rosi have decided to solidify their show. By adding a bonafide music component in the form of Dj Boogie Blaze & Dj Prince, the show will reach new heights!
Be Sure to Check out Coco and Rosi’s show Today’s Tmrrw Tonight and every Tuesday night on NightLine Radio from 10PM to Midnight. Also celebrate with them as they honor their one year anniversary. Its
BIG, it’s one year of the show and year one of many of the MOVEMENT.
Sex Life REVEALED
Recently I engaged some friends in a small conversation over abortion, sex, and teenage pregnancy. I also read a piece entitled "Why Black Girls Get Pregnant at 19," a very great piece to read. A story that like many others that needed to be shared. But it was from the discussion and reading that piece that I felt it was necessary for another side of the story to be told, mine!
I lost my virginity at 14! People that are cool with me know that I don't reveal much about my sex life. The number of women, their names, when, any of it; I don't really share. But I lost my virginity at 14. It wasn't with some chick I was in a relationship with or one that I had feelings for. Someone that I had gone to school with, someone just a curious and open about theirs, as I was with mine. We had talked before about having sex, so one Summer afternoon, with nothing to do I called her, she was free, so I went over. Just so hype about getting ready to lose my virginity, there weren't any condoms brought along or included, no questions asked about any STDs, birth control or any of it. I barely knew what I was doing (til this day I don't know if she knows or not), I tried to play it off as much as possible, all I knew was from the couple of pornos I had watched and the common sense of a 14 year old boy.
Let's rewind a little, I'm the oldest, grew up with both my parents, I had talked to girls before, had even at seen and touched a few vaginas. I had experienced the joys and wonders of masturbating, so I knew somewhat of what my body was capable of.
I can remember being around friends in 7th and 8th grade listening to them discuss different things; which later I found out they were mainly wrong about.
They had overheard, we're told, or just made things up believing what they knew to be fact. Listing the actions and events as if they had done them. At that age we are all very curious, old enough to kind of understand, but not old enough to fully understand the experience and what lies farther down the road. I too was curious, girls were getting more attractive; they had periods (that's not attractive, but follow me), they were getting breast, butts were become bigger and more round, legs/thighs were getting thicker, hair was done, and let's not talk about those catholic school skirts.
So you can see why at 14 I'd be amped to have sex, wouldn't you? Honestly I didn't believe half of what I had heard and wasn't really about to go ask my parents. So for me losing my virginity was really to expel myths and find truth. I remember at the time thinking it too, I don't want go off to high school a virgin and lying about what I had "done" knowing I really hadn't. I wanted to have some first-hand knowledge and understanding of what it was.
I will say that it wasn't 100% because of my pre-cautious ways that I don't have any kids now. There were sometimes we're I played a little Russian roulette. I would have to thank God, because there were several times were I played it a little to close. I'll chalk it up to being young, dumb, and slightly reckless, because it could have happened, I could have been a young father.
I've always remember certain words from my mother "if you think you are ready to have sex let me or your father know, we'll buy the condoms and don't bring no babies in here cause I'm not watching them." There was more to "that" talk but those are always the part I remember.
Let's cue in the entrance of aol chatrooms, teen phone chat lines, teen parties, and Sconex. Between these different mediums and my High School the cargo doors of sex had opened. The girls came then the sex, sex, sex and more sex. For me it wasn't about talking to the baddest chics or bragging about it to my boys; I never made it known who I was talking to. Never really said much to them about it; I simply made the moves I was making and kept it as such.
As for the sex conversations happening around me; I was quickly able to distinguish between those who had actually done the do and those who were just talking to talk. I joined in on some of the conversations, never too much to give away too much but enough to keep up and you know be down. No I didn't start having sex when I did or continue with it just to be cool, but in the midst of it coolness injects itself somewhere in there. Fact though is there really wasn't a need, my friends that were virgins, I didn't look at them any different and for the most part I hadn't declared the loss of my virginity card so I wasn't looked at different.
The sex continued, I had a few girlfriends here and there, so there were points of consistent sex. And after a while I was feeling like a pro, after football and basketball season was over I didn't have to worry about practice. Which left more times for the chics, sex, and setting up more rendezvouses. My parents both worked and I could easily persuade my little brother to leave the room if anything. And there were times we're I would just go to their spot. Once I started working after school I just figured out the amount of time I had to get everything done before my mother got home. During all this sex for me, it never really was about being cool, or succumbing to peer pressure. I wasn't worried about none of that; it was about the feeling, the stroke, the moan, all of that good stuff (I broke my bed once from having sex, crazy)!! I did become wiser after that first time though, I started using condoms, FOR THE MOST PART. I always remembered that don't bring no babies in this house line. I can't lie though, there were times where the condom popped or just wasn't readily available. In those cases it was definitely a pull out and/or a Plan B pill. Being honest there's nothing scarier for a teenage boy than hearing a teenage girl saying we need to talk and she might be pregnant. My senior year in high school, I had one of those scares. Turned out to be just that, a scare, but it definitely put things more into perspective.
As I fully had more of an understanding of the things in front of me I saw then that I couldn't just let it all slip away for a quick moment of fun. Being young and dumb is exactly how I will describe it. I can understand how people do get caught out there though. Because at that age we don't have much to live for but have everything to live for. Let that resonate for a minute. We live heavily in the moment without thinking much of the consequences.
Off to college and enter the land of grown woman; mixed with sleepovers, alcohol, and freedom to do as one pleases. The first time I had sex in college was the first week of school. And in some ways I think that set the mark for the next 4 years, but honestly this was unknown to me. Realistically there wasn't anyway I could have seen what was to come. I did know that there would be some sort of integrity to it that I would have to maintain. I made sure that I always kept condoms in my room and at least one on me always. It became expensive at times but I understood that baby and side piece pregnancies weren't on the agenda.
The fully understanding for the use of precaution came after the first time I took an HIV/AIDS test. I went with two friends and no lies we were all scared shitless. But it really was a reality check for us and least for me. It was one of those rapid test, but it didn't make the anxiety any less. Sitting in there thinking back to the times where the condom popped or the moments without them, does a lot to you as a young man. So while sitting there I sent up a number of prayers asking for God's help. Even made a commitment that I would make sure that I wrapped it from there on out or I wouldn't have sex. The test came back NEGATIVE and when it did I let out one of the biggest sigh's of reliefs. But til this day I try to hold true to that commitment I made. And now when taking STD test I'm cool as ice.
As I take time to look back on it, before and as I write this piece I see many places where this story could have gone in a completely different direction. It's possibly only by the grace of God that it didn't. I will say that there was never a moment where I completely had a lapse in judgement and just went raw dog with cum and all. I never went that far, but it was also ignorant of me to not acknowledge that precum can do the same amount "damage" as the full ejaculation itself. So in that aspect I must truly say that it was God's grace. I will end by saying this, we all hold the power when it comes to sex, teenage pregnancy, and sexual transmitted diseases.
Ladies: from as young as 12/13 (let's just face truth they're having sex too). You won't be more popular, for the right reasons, because you're having sex. And if that is how you rather gain ya popularity there's nothing wrong with having LOOSE SAFE SEX. It definitely is better to be loose, safe and baby free. Older women; the same holds true for you. While you would have a better understanding that having a child won't end your life. It is also better to wait until you are emotionally, mentally, and financially stable.
Guys: It's never cool to get a female pregnant and not stick around to take care of what's yours. Avoid the drama, the headache, and the 18 years; just put the condom on. I can't say from experience, but its not cool to be walking around burning or infected with something. You weigh it and let me know how the options pan out. Don't brag about the last chic you hit and keep your sex talk circle small. In high school it may seem cool to talk about what chick you hit or who you about to hit. But you also catch more bees with honey than vinegar.
Moral of story; wrap it up, be safe, an if you ever find yourself in a pregnancy situation. Think about all the possible options weigh them, think about whether you're stable and ready, and make the best decision for YOU.
Intro to Fellatio
Just some useful info from the male perspective on what we like, hopefully it helps...
Ladies, if ya man gives and gives good he should receive. I think that's as simple as it gets.
Let go of any and all inhibition you may have about giving your man or partner head, especially after you've already put your mouth on the dick.
There's nothing more disappointing than a female that's already giving head being timid during the process.
We want you to be free, nasty, & dirty about it and I mean FREE, NASTY, & DIRTY about it.
Moan and get off on the fact that your sucking dick and doing it good, or as the song says doin it and doin It and doin it well. Look up at me, while I'm staring down at you, yea we like that shit!
Don't be weak and petite with it, hold it with mastery, engulf it like it’s your favorite meal all wrapped up in one.
Now for the 3 S's: Spit, Stroke, and Suck!!!
Yes, spit on the dick, ladies you can never spit too much on the dick while you're giving head. The more the merrier, lmao, seriously though slippery is better. This leads to the....
Stroke, if that shit is nice and naturally lubed up thy stroking is going to be graceful. A nice steady stroke and some scrotum massaging during the stroking phase makes it all better and better. Finally you add the....
Suck, now depending on where at in the fellatio phase you are will determine which of the sucks you use. There's the full shaft suck that should be used if you're still early into the fellatio. This is the full insertion of said penis into your mouth as far as it can go. Deeper the better but don't kill yourself if you not bout that life. And also remember to keep the dick moist. Then there's the suck of just the head, this should be used towards the end, right before the sex ensues. Here all you have to do is with the right amount of sucking pressure suck the head of the dick, making that pop sound every so often.
Combined and executed properly the three S's will have you man cumming or aroused completely for great intercourse.
Also ladies know there's nothing wrong with random middle of the night, first thing in the morning, late afternoon session of fellatio. Even if it’s a quick 5mins it's random but seductive and though he may not admit it. We like seductive.
Don't be afraid to ask your man what he likes, hell do it while you're giving him head, but it has to be in the sexy sexy voice.
P.S. There's nothing wrong with swallowing. Two things to keep in mind, if he gives you head you don't push him away or he moves away while your creamy filling is pouring out, you shouldn't neither. Second, if your doin it well chances are you have already tasted the precum, so the whole you don't swallow is invalid. Be a woman about it, own it, and swallow it. It's appreciation for your hard work!!Lets Talk About It
She's 15 and can purchase Emergency Contraceptive, Plan B, over the counter at the local Pharmacy; without her parents knowing. Late yesterday evening, the FDA revealed that they were adjusting the age restriction to start at girls 15 years old and up. This actually isn't the first time that the FDA has looked to make these same changes. It was once tried before, but then blocked by the Obama Administration, more as a political move than anything else. After a court ruling the FDA, was given the authority once again to make the changes as they saw fit. Well those changes will be arriving pretty soon.
A couple of key facts about the Plan B pill; it IS NOT the abortion pill, its a preventive conception pill, and is relatively safe with little to no side affects.
But the question is does anyone see a problem with this? Do you think a girl as young as 15, should be able to go purchase the Plan B pill, without her parents even knowing? Have we or are we creating a double standard, there's no age restriction on buying condoms and boys aren't carded when they buy them?
Let us know how you feel, comment below or email in responses to theoryrepublic@gmail.com
I Was Shocked When....She Said She Was Pregnant
I was shocked when; she told me the doctor said she was pregnant.
It was days before I was suppose to leave for College; she met me after work, we were going to go back to my house, she had just come from her yearly physical with her doctor. She said the doctor gave her a routine pregnancy test and she was El Prego.
I was shocked; all that I could think was there wasn’t going to be any College right now. I would be staying at my job, going fulltime, so that I could do the responsible thing and support them. I couldn’t figure out though how I was going to deliver the news to my mother. Mind you all of this went through my mind in a matter of about 3mins. No literally three minutes, she told me as we were getting on the bus and I had thought about this from the door to our sits, so maybe less than 3 minutes. But I wasn’t sure how or what I would say to my mother, because her thing has always been “DON’T BRING NO BABIES IN THIS HOUSE.” So I’m like WHAT AM I GOING TO DO? I know the start was cancelling my plans to go to college and work fulltime but other than that WTF, I still leave at home, we not married, WTF.
Some of y’all are like why you just thinking of yourself, what about her, is she okay, that a lot for her to deal with. You right it is, I put my arm around her and said that I was here for her with whatever she wanted to do, but this is “I was shocked when”.
NOW YOU CAN ADD, I WAS SHOCKED WHEN….. I finished reading this and he ended with that she said she was joking.
(This isn’t a fictional story, it actually true.)
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